Stop the Cycle...

Well ladies this ones mostly for me, but more than likely I bet some of you have been with me at least at some point.

I will go into more detail on a few different things I mention but for now I'm just getting some thoughts down.

Lets just have a little chat.

Why are we so hard on ourselves?

Why are we are own worst critic? Why do we lift everyone else around us but yet little by little tear ourselves down? Why do we remember every negative thing someone tells us and put that on repeat until we actually believe it!!? Why do we let our weight (whatever that number is) control our happiness?

Lets go down memory lane for a second. (Lets talk about the good ol' glory days!)

I currently live right across the street from where I lived when I was going to college. I run the same trails. Drive the same routes. I see students hanging out in the same hot tub just listening to different music. It's all just so familiar yet feels like a lifetime ago!

In college remember feeling like, I was fat.... Everyone else was skinnier than me.... I need to diet.... I hate my clothes..... I hate my hair.... I need to workout to get skinny.... I'm not enough.... No guy is going to like me....

Ahhhh! JUST STOP!

Truth is I looked pretty good! I could run circles around my current postpartum self. Why couldn't I see that? Why can't we see how amazing we are right now? Without losing a pound, without running a marathon, or looking good in every Instagram post. Just be happy with who you are, exactly how YOU ARE RIGHT NOW!!!

Lets STOP THE CYCLE!!!

I've grown so much within the last (lets go with few) years! I've worked long crazy hours, put my husband through school, I've lived and enjoyed life, I've been down, I've been pregnant, I've lost some, I've been in shape and back out of shape. I've become a mother and with that a new found respect for all of the amazing women in my life. Like seriously!!! Each and every one of us deserve an award and all the recognition in the world!

As women we go through enough already. Lets stop putting this extra pressure on ourselves to be perfect! The scale does not control our happiness! Lets be kind to ourselves and find the happiness that is already in front of us. Love yourself just how you are and if you can't see it, just know all the women around you already do.

You're selfless.... You're brave... You're hardworking... You're talented... You're an amazing mother... You're and amazing friend... You do the dishes like a rock-star... You're there for your kids... Your kids are alive.... You're funny.... You're smart.... You pay the bills.... You're a working mom.... You're a stay at home mom... YOU ARE YOU and so much more than the number on the scale! YOU my friend a freaking superhero!!!!!

You're doing the best you can and that is ENOUGH.

Love always,

Mary Alexis

PS. I bet you look a lot better than you think you do. Watch out....lets werk these mom bods!!!